Is there anyone who has low libido? I feel like I do but I act like I dont to pleasure my partner. Often times Idont want him to grab me or anything. What do you ladies do to fix that?
Yes! I will have a two week streak where I don’t want my boyfriend to touch me or anything and it has caused so fights. Sometimes for me it’s just not feeling sexy enough for him! It’s weird when all of a sudden I have a really high libido for about a week and then it just stops.
My libido is in its boots. I have sex to keep my husband happy and to try to get pregnant. I used to be very sexual, but not anymore. I don't think about sex, and if we didn't have fights about bedroom matters, I wouldn't really know when last we were intimate, and wouldn't be bothered. It's really really frustrating.
I used to to also feel like I had a low sex drive and I would cringe when my husband would touch me, it caused quite a number of fights the first few years of marriage. It is something I am still not completely over although it has vastly improved! What helped me was taking time and really thinking of why I didn't feel like initiating sex or denying sex when my husband initiated. Ex. hormone imbalance, past sexual history, sexual assault, preconceived notions of how women view sex in my society, control, etc. And then communicating with my husband how I felt and him making me feel secure enough to talk about these things with him. Also, talking with your ob can be helpful to determine if it is related to hormones. I didn't realize this because I don't think it is advertised well, but some obs specialize in helping women with a low sex drive. I also read "Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel, a sex psychologist and that was helpful.
Yes, this has happened to me. It's the hormone fluctuations. As I got older the urge started to decline more and more. When I became pregnant, I didn't want sex. Only one time we had sex when I was pregnant. I was repulsed by it. After pregnancy, it was different but we had to wait 6 or 8 weeks and it was great. But then it went down to where I didn't. Caused alot of arguments and I told him he was being selfish. Eventually he moved out. Now it's been almost 3 years since I have had sex and honestly I have no desire. I may get an urge here or there. But honestly the urged has gone down over the years, I am in my 40s. I am single and I am OK with that, no room for arguing with a man over sex. I have a toddler to raise, a house that is still being fixed up, demanding job, and I have to loose weight. I am not sure what will help with that except diet and exercise?
This has happened to me