About 6 weeks ago, my husband told me that hes no longer attracted to me and he knows I was just diagnosed with pcos and have gained weight. I weigh 153 right now and am 4”11, 30 years old, have 2 kiddos.
We have been together 14 years and since he has told me this, I feel very upset, sad, confused, and lost. I asked him over and over when did he start feeling this way.
To add onto that , he wants to have sex and wants me to do sexual favors (sorry tmi : blowjobs) and I don’t want to. Not… read more
@A myPCOSteam Member I think you already know the answer to what you are asking :( if your body doesn't even feel comfortable with seeking pleasure from him then that has to say something. I'm not married, but it sounds like you should be validating yourself that you are beautiful, and weight shouldn't matter. If it does, and he is not attracted to you, so be it ( in the nicest way possible) My boyfriend asked me to be with him when i was 310 pounds, and i am now 230 pounds, he thinks im absolutely beautiful but he still reminds me so often that i was just as beautiful when i was very well overweight and unhealthy ( STILL AM!) but i am working on it. My ex had told me when i was 120 pounds that i shouldn't be eating a second bowl of cereal, and i can tell you i would much rather be with the man i am with now. I see this post is from a very long time ago, but it makes me very sad seeing some of the stuff you beautiful females are sharing and i hope you both either worked out what was really bothering him, or if he is that shallow that you have realized your self worth and are able to validate yourself and that you are beautiful. No woman should ever have to hear those words.
I refuse to let this get to me , but some things some days are harder than others. I also don’t want this to take over and put me in a bad mood. I went yesterday and got out of the house, got a pedicure, to help me relax. Because it ruined my morning.
I want to just enjoy my kids , my life, and hope as he is doing therapy for the first time , he can see what he did wrong or could have done better.
To all you ladies out there , going through whatever you are going through I pray god gives us the strength to get through this. You are worthy, we are worthy, no matter what… tries to put us down. I am looking forward to go to church today with the kiddos because … like I said , these ups and down have been taking a toll on me .
Receive virtual hugs for all you're going through.
Let it not dampen your spirit.
May you have the strength to take care of those 2 kiddos.
Men are stupid when their brains take a hold of them. He will regret it if he does cheat. I told my husband if he ever did that I’m gone. You deserve not someone who wants something like that if he says what he said. I’d feel the same as you feel.
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